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Divorce is one of the most challenging experiences that a person can face. Parenting during a divorce adds an extra layer of difficulty because children are also experiencing grief. As a parent, it takes courage to navigate this difficult time and support your children's emotional health.

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3 ways you can support your children during divorce
 

1. Don't Involve Your Children in Adult Matters

Children should not be involved in adult matters during a divorce. They cannot understand the complexities that led to the end of your marriage, and it's not their responsibility to do so. Reassure your children that you both love them and prioritize their well-being. Seek professional assistance to manage your own emotions and avoid burdening your children with your feelings.

2. Be Careful What You Say About Your Ex-Partner

Children are a product of both parents, and they understand that they are "half" of each. Speaking negatively about your ex-partner can harm your children's emotional health and affect their development. Instead, be mindful of your words and actions and strive to be respectful towards your ex-partner in front of your children.

3. Prioritize Consistency and Routine

Consistency and routine are essential for children's emotional well-being. During a divorce, it's important to maintain consistency and routines as much as possible, especially when children are living between two households.

Ensure that both households have similar bedtimes, sleep routines, and rules. Children's personal belongings, particularly their toys, should be able to travel freely between homes to promote a sense of security and continuity.

Conclusion

Divorce is a challenging time for all involved, but it's also an opportunity for growth and new beginnings. As a parent, you can support your children's emotional health during this difficult time by avoiding involving them in adult matters, being mindful of what you say about your ex-partner, and prioritizing consistency and routines.

Seek professional assistance and communicate openly with your children to help them navigate this challenging time.

Wriiten by Clarissa Rayward Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre
PHOTO: MARISA FAHRNER

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